Do you remember that time when you were both so in love you couldn’t imagine a day without talking to her? Yeah, Prince Charles once felt that way about Princess Diana. Do you remember when seeing her make your life complete? Yeah, Brad Pitt felt like that every time he saw Angelina. Do you remember when you could do even the craziest things just to make her smile? I wonder whether this is the part I insert Justin and Serena or Miley and Liam or Lucy and I. Any likenesses to real people are purely coincidental and mostly satirical.
The point here is that love has its ups and downs. The ups don’t mean you’ll be together forever and the downs don’t mean that it’s the end of the world. Love is a living thing and it has moods too. It also grows and falls sick. It blossoms and reproduces. At some point, you will be her least favorite person. There are many reasons why it might be. You might have cheated on her. She might have cheated on you. You might have said something crass. Her friends might have said something about you. Etc etc. Or maybe the relationship might just feel bland a bit. As I said, there are many reasons why. Pick one and let’s go.
The first thing you should do when you don’t feel receptive to any real emotion from her is to talk about it with her. That’s if you don’t know the reason already. Take her to a place outside your usual element. Somewhere you can see Hills or stars or a water body. Women usually open up when they see things like that. She will tell you everything.
If at all you don’t follow my first point, try rebranding yourself. Get a new haircut or a new wardrobe or a new scent. This is all smoke and mirrors to get her to look twice at you. When a woman starts to notice you, things start to happen. So if she noticed you once before, why not again?
Don’t try to change her mind with sex. At this point in the relationship, sex is just another activity. If you try to lure her into sex, it’s not going to make a difference. Women are capable of having sex with you without attaching emotions. Whereas you are not. You will think you made a difference yet in the actual sense you just became a nag.
Don’t buy her gifts. Gifts in a relationship should be a reward for love and not a bribe. If you bribe her with a gift, then the joke is on you. She will fake moods just to get something out of you and will eventually leave you.
Pray. I never give this advice but if things are bad, try prayer my brother. There’s nothing that brings love in your heart like praying for someone who isn’t you. Pray for her. The fact that you humbled yourself before God will make it easier for you to humble yourself before her. It will also make you a better person.
After following the above steps, please find some water and drink. Then wait for results. If she really loves you enough, she will retrace her steps back to you. If she doesn’t, then you come back here next week. I’ll have another saucy piece for you.
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