Are you beautiful?

We are all beautiful it’s the thoughts of ourselves that defer what we look like on the outside.

With Nyamushagi Bridget

What is beauty? Well I wouldn’t know and I probably couldn’t describe it if I tried but here is what I know for sure, beauty is an intangible manifestation of a positive energy about ourselves that is so deep within us it eventually bursts out and reveals itself through our bodies. It is a feeling.

 So if it’s a feeling, how come we do not always feel this way? Well that’s the beauty of life, it’s like a symphony, if there were no lows, we would not appreciate the highs. So where does this leave us?  It means that much as beauty is a feeling we cannot sermon it at any time, we have to be aware that we are being beautiful, and this will take time, effort and mastering of one’s body.

While obvious beauty seems to be with the rich and famous, ordinary people too hold the keys to beauty and this article will help you unlock these places within you enjoy.

 Be confident

Do not confuse confidence for arrogance. Confidence means you know something well enough to tell people about it and take other people’s opinions  too, arrogance means you are the only one who could possibly know anything, and no one else’s opinion matters. That’s just a turn off, because then no one has anything to teach you and you become unapproachable.

Having an idea of who you are and the things you want in life will attract people to you because you stand out of the crowd, you have focus that’s admirable. This obviously means that you have to spend time discovering yourself though hobbies, reading widely etc. The journey of self-discovery is endless.

Knowing yourself, will make making decisions easy, as you’ll be well grounded in your values. This doesn’t in any way imply that life is a straight path, new things will be revealed, the important thing is that you have a rhythm that you vibrate to and you’re aware of it.

Standing for everything may mean standing for nothing at all, so know the things that address your choices.

Being kind and polite.

Some people are fortunate to grow up in a home where someone takes care to teach them to be aware of other people’s feelings. This may seem like something easy, but as the world gets hectic there is a tendency to channel our energy away from other people and onto ourselves. It takes tremendous energy to refocus on things other than ourselves.

We need each other to grow, and it’s only human to hurt other people as we go. But this needn’t be the end of a friendship, apologize when you have the chance, you never really know how much time you’ve left with that person. Forgiveness, is something that goes two ways, in asking for forgiveness, it opens a channel to begin a new and it expresses our vulnerability as human and is a definite chance to make things better in the future.

Listening to others

There is a tremendous difference between listening and hearing. Hearing is detecting sound with your ears, listening is mindful, it involves focus from all your senses. Seek always to know before you seek to be known.

 Many times the heavy concerns we live with only need a few minutes of uninterrupted attention. If you have a misunderstood child with deep rooted problems causing misbehavior at school, or a dying marriage, it may be time to offer an attentive ear. It’s hard to know the whole story if you’re too busy talking.

A major human weakness is that it’s hard to look outside of ourselves. Listening requires empathy, for one to get out of their situation and try be in the other person’s shoes. Then ponder on these questions what would you feel? What would you do? A moment of realization will occur, it will be easier to see that the person really is asking for our help and they’re handling the situation the best way they know.

Find a quiet place and time to listen, it’s not easy to listen over the rumbling of traffic or the television. Try a secluded garden and make the most of that heart to heart. The need to be understood is one of the most basic human needs. It reflects in our daily behavior. We gravitate towards people because we simply feel that they understand our situation. Understanding isn’t a thing for some chosen few, it’s a skill that if forgotten can be cultivated a new. It only requires willingness to be there for someone today.

We are different, and our beauty is in our diversity, so do not bash too hard on people simply because they do not agree with your beliefs, if you listen you will come to a compromise.

To be continued …………..

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